Are you ready to move in together?

So… you’re thinking about moving in together? Well, to begin, you’re not alone. According to The Center for Disease Control & Prevention, more Americans are moving in together before marriage.

And yes. We know that is an odd statistic to come from The CDC, but that’s not the point. The point is that everyone is doing it, which begs the question… should you? Well, not to quote mom and dad, but… if everyone jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?

Instead of focusing on the negatives and constraints for couples who are wanting to take that leap toward the arc of commitment in their lives, we’ll focus mostly on the positives on moving together and sharing domestic life.

In this post, we’ll discuss:

  • Advantages Of Living Together Before Marriage
  • 5 questions to ask before moving in together
  • Our additional tips on moving in together

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Advantages Of Living Together Before Marriage

Deeper Level of Bonding Between the Two of You

According to relationship experts, In a live-in relationship, you and your partner bond on an even deeper level than those in traditional relationships. Their likes will become yours – their dislikes as well! You may have been afraid that this would never happen because of all the additional responsibilities involved but if both parties put forth effort into being themselves then it can work for them just fine; after marriage there tend to be many changes which affect how we act when around our significant other vs friends/family etc., so by figuring out ways where each individual still feels free outside of what they usually do during any given day helps keep things balanced.

It Shows Others That You Two Are United

When two people live together, they can show each other that they have one another’s backs and are united in defense against whatever is thrown their way. That being said it might not matter what others think because living with someone means there will be no more denial about the relationship–everyone knows for certain how serious you really take each other!

Learning if You and Your Partner Are Compatible

One of the biggest and most important advantages of living with your partner is figuring out if you both are compatible enough for marriage and asking, “Am I picking a compatible person to live in with?”. By knowing this you can prevent any down-the-road relationship issues. Many have called this ‘the ultimate test’ – seeing how well things can work between two people who’ve committed to spending their lives together, by testing one another’s habits first-hand in order make sure there isn’t anything too big that could potentially ruin everything before it even gets going; like “Is my partner a clean person?  If you guys are in fact compatible, then heck, we can already hear the wedding bells ringing!

Managing Finacnes

Managing finances is one of the most important things you need to discuss with your partner. You and they both develop an understanding on how allocate money for living expenses (and even things like your security deposit), which continues into marriage as well! It helps split costs in a way that each person can be comfortable about it; this will lead towards better communication and relationship satisfaction over time.

More Communication

Communication is key to a successful relationship, and being able to communicate efficiently is essentially the biggest sign you’re ready to move in together.. You can’t communicate with your partner if they are not around, but what good does that do you? Live-in relationships help bridge the communication gap between two people living in different places by understanding each other’s wants and needs without them having too say it out loud! Better yet – better conversations lead into more satisfying marriages than those just consisting of one person talking at their significant other all day long (or night).

Spending More Time Together

Live-in relationships allow you both to spend a lot more time together, and it helps each of us figure out how much space we need for ourselves without feeling smothered by the other person’s needs or desires! It is also pretty awesome when your partner greets every morning with an enthusiastic “good morning” instead of waiting around thinking about what they can say next that doesn’t sound too annoying, and their face also being the last thing you see at night!

You Learn More About Your Partner

One of the best things about live-in relationships is getting to know your partner better. You might find out they snore, have a favorite color or food that isn’t yours – these are just some examples! Live in couples typically spend so much time with each other because there aren’t any commitments outside their home which means you get all this free time for dating purposes–time meant earlier could be put towards uncovering secrets from pasts together before moving forward into future plans as you grow as a couple.

Now, even after you’ve just learned of all of these advantages, the biggest mistake couples make to not ask certain questions with each other before moving in.

5 Questions to Ask Before Moving In Together

To make moving in together comfortable, you have to be willing to have uncomfortable conversations. Many couples are so excited about moving in together, that they never sit down and talk about some very big and important questions. Below, you will find 6 things to discuss before moving in together and avoiding potential couple conflict.

1. How will we be paying for rent, utilities, groceries, and expenses?

Money is a serious subject and one you should always discuss before moving in together. Before signing an apartment lease, you and your partner should come up with a game plan and determine who will be paying for what and how all you will divvy up expenses. For example, let’s say one person is eating more of the groceries or taking longer showers, should they be paying more for their share? You two also need to figure out how you will divide up surprise expenses… what happens if someone’s car needs work done? While these may seem minor, they can have a tremendous impact on the course of a relationship post move.

2. How will you two maintain the spark in your relationship after moving in together?

When relationships are new and exciting, there is no need to maintain the spark… the spark is already there… hotter than a firecracker on the 4th of July. After moving in together, the spark can start burning low, which is natural but does mean the two of you need to make more of an effort to keep things exciting. Choose certain nights to be date nights. Plan fun day trips. Or sign up for a mean subscription so you can make dinner together a couple nights a week. It’s necessary to make this a point of discussion because it is easy to get in the habit of chilling on the couch while the two of you doze off to Netflix. 

3. How will you set boundaries and respect one another’s privacy? 

One of the most difficult aspects of moving in together with your partner is going from tons of privacy to next-to-no privacy at all. This is why it is so important for you two to set boundaries with one another. These boundaries will vary depending on the relationship, but regardless, it should be a point of discussion.

4. How will you share responsibilities? 

As you already know, there is a lot to do around a house or apartment in regards to responsibilities. Doing laundry. Washing dishes. Drying dishes. Cleaning the bathroom. Making the bed. Vacuuming the floors. Taking out the trash. Before moving in together, you and your partner should talk about how responsibilities will split.

5. How will you work through problems in your relationship as they come up? 

While this one may sound a bit odd, think about it for a moment. Before moving in together, you and your partner had a specific way of working through disagreements. Maybe you met up and talked about it. Maybe you hopped on a phone call. Perhaps you didn’t talk for a couple of days. When you live with someone, it is important to know how you are going to work through disagreements in your relationship. After all, ignoring your significant other isn’t an option (you live with them). Figure this out as to avoid the “ghosts of relationship past”. 

While no matter how strong your relationship, moving in together can be a bit intimidating, and your choice to move together shouldn’t be based solely on an emotional decision. And, it should be, it’s a very big step in a couple’s relationship. With that said, big steps don’t always mean bad ones. As long as you are confident in your relationship and your partner, living with someone you love can be an amazing journey. Be sure to talk first and lay down a few ground rules. Being logical and organized will go a long way in making a conscious decision to move in together. 

Plan the Big Move

When you are ready to move, this list of steps helps makes the process easy: 

  • Complete all your budgeting work
  • Find a place that fits your price range
  • Ask friends about the location and to know what the people are like. Is it a fun place? Quiet? Do other friends live nearby? 
  • Tour the unit or home and the surroundings to ensure it is safe and what you imagined
  • Set up a move-in date with your new landlord
  • Use our moving guide step by step. It covers everything, including what utilities to set up. 

Lastly, here is a quick guide on tips for comparing moving company quotes that might help with you and your partner’s budgeting.

Best of luck to the both of you!